
This is somewhat similar to my statement above, but it’s
a tad different because a clingy person can come across as loving and
concerned. I have known adolescents who accuse their parent (mother or
father) of dating many people and claim, after 10 weeks together, that
they cannot live without this person. Their emotions are ten times what
they normally would be and the person believes that their connection with
the other person is somewhat “divine.”
While I (and many others) believe
people are preordained to be with certain people in their lives, this
kind of person is shallowly engaged in the relationship. There is a
delusional
element to their emotions which often appears disproportionate to reality.
While love can be very strong between two people, healthy love is
developed over time and is not “blinded” by shallow attractions (physical
appearance, prestige, style, etc).
A person who is extremely clingy is a
needy person who is trying to meet their needs with a relationship that
will never be sufficient. Think back to the beginning of this article when
we discussed attachment. A child who has been deprived of his or her
mother’s love can certainly grow into an adult who is desperately seeking
for love in all the wrong places. Unfortunately, many people are labeled
“irresponsible” because of their choice of many partners, living style, or
emotional chaos. But the reality is most likely that they are starving for
a connection they were never able to experience.
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